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by
Rose DesRochers
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She
is a guide, mentor, mother, nurturer, wife and friend. Today's woman
is a new woman in ever changing new world. She gives, and she takes,
only what is earned. She speaks up even when it feels uncomfortable.
When life gives her lemons, Today's woman takes those lemons and
makes lemonade.
As
a woman, I have the same goals in mind today, as my mother did yesterday.
I want just as much to raise and care for my children in a healthy
home environment. The only difference between me and my mother is
that she was born in 1932, a time of poverty. By the age of 12,
she was at home raising her brothers and sisters instead of attending
school. My mother grew into a woman and took on the job of mother
and wife. She never worked outside of the home until my fathers
death in 1988. At this time she was forced back into the workforce
with no education and little job experience. She took a job at a
factory until ill health required her to retire early. But she did
what she had to do to survive.
Today
I want as much for myself and my children as my mother did. However,
as women, we have worked our way into the right to vote, to fight
for equal pay, and to break away from traditional roles. Some of
this breakdown is good, but I think we might have taken it too far.
No longer is Today's Woman concerned with equality but we have pushed
our way with this feminist movement until we are now one up on men.
The
abortion movement is one such example. The law allows a woman to
take power over a joint decision by aborting a life made by both
man and woman, and the man has no say over it. Yet the same feminists
are demanding that fathers pay child support and alimony instead
of teaching the single woman to financially support herself. Feminists
have created Today's woman all right, they have trained and molded
her to be a victim.
I am
no victim. I am a survivor. I have learned to take responsibility
for everything I do in this life. Therefore, I have learned there
are no victims, only volunteers. The sad thing is, feminists don't
even see how much of an embarrassment they are to other women like
me. Today's Woman is teaching herself to take control over something
that involves both a man and woman, like abortion, and yet at the
same time, making her depend on her man's money and encouraging
the government to give her special privileges.
Being
Today's Woman should mean that you can make a contribution to humanity,
as a whole. It should be about finding your passion in life and
embracing it with determination, and being dependant upon yourself,
and no one else. Today's Woman has more than equal rights and yet
she still wants more. She wants to have her cake and eat it too.
Come on, you have to admit that the feminist way of thinking is
pretty much biased. She wants the same rights as man but has no
trouble accepting a few favors because she has breasts and ovaries.
At
one time, the feminist movement actually might have stood for something--meant
something to me as a woman, but (sadly) not anymore. I was proud
to be a feminist when women were marching up the street and shouting,
"take back the night; don't be a victim." But now, Today's
woman has gone from the nurturing, caring mother, like my mother
was, to a bitter, resentful woman. Sadly, by the standards of Todays
Woman, if you are not on the side of the line that believes in aborting
the unborn child, and taking Daddy to the cleaners in a messy divorce,
then youre not real women. * Today's woman has labeled all
women as victims. By Today's woman's standards, there is only one
way to think, and that is their way. They have no problem in playing
the helpless female role and taking power over man. But let's look
at this: perhaps it is man who is really the victim.
Unfortunately,
there are too many double standards set by Today's woman, so maybe
I'm yesterdays woman after all, and I am living in Today's
World. Being a mother is perhaps the most noble, important profession
in society. Maybe I am just a woman who was born in the wrong century.
I know
a young thirty-four year old, single mother, who is bringing up
five children on her own. She is a woman whom I admire as Today's
Woman. She cares about the well being of her family. She struggles
daily to lift her family out of poverty and provide the best for
those children. She makes the ultimate sacrifice a mother can, by
getting up out of bed despite how she is feeling, and going to work
each day, so she may provide the necessities for her children. She
doesn't have any "daddy" in the background paying child
support and alimony. She is both mother and father. She is what
Today's Woman should be. Tammy Chambers is a lady whom I greatly
admire as Today's woman, and she could certainly teach the feminist
movement a thing or two.
About the Author
Rose DesRochers, Canada
admin@todays-woman.net
http://www.todays-woman.net
Rose is a published author and web columnist. She is also the founder
of Today's Woman a supportive online community for men and women
over 18. Their goal is to help writers succeed in the writing industry
by offering a useful selection of services including author interviews,
regular columns, interactive forums, and a place to share your writing
for critique by your peers.
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